one of lifes great pursuits is finding balance, more so when you have a family. Whilst you might feel balanced, your family could be out of balance, and therefore as your family is an extension of yourself you are out of balance. This point was driven home when Bron took me to task for not communicating with her. My initial reaction was to get defensive, of course I communicate with you. Well different people require diffent forms of communication. This is like basic 101 knowledge, so then why do I keep missing the target. Sure we communicate but not the way Bron wants me to talk to her. I need to be more in touch with my wife. A simple statement that seems so hard to put to practise. It is not like I don’t care about Bron, in fact I love her madly, Bron is the lady I have chosen to spend my life with.
Why then the miss communication? Well I reckon it is because I do not put enough effort into changing my habits. Thats all it boils down to, a habit. So from today I will do my level best to give 100% attention to Bron when we communicate. I will stop what I am doing, listen, comprehend and respond. I will share my thoughts, emotions and dreams.
Why is it sometimes easier to speak to a mate about these things than the person you love? I reckon it is because you can laugh off a mates critism or negativity and move on much easier when they from a mate or a stranger than when they come from your life partner. Hats to to my lovely wife for confronting me this morning, a few weeks ago I asked that if she feels unloved, unhappy or that I am not paying attention to her that she lets me know straight away and she did. Open communication, this brings us closer together and we develope a deeper understanding of each other. It doesn’t mean everything automatically falls into place, but it makes us aware of each others feelings. And if I am causing someone else to feel hurt then I need to change my ways. So starting right now I hit the reset button once again and start afresh, a new begining because I can, it is as simple as a thought put into motion.